Stay connected to bond with your kids

To be connected with your growing child is the need of the hour and has become a necessity more than ever in today's world. We stay under one roof, following a routine life and  completing our day-to-day tasks effectively more or less. Sending the kids to the school, attending their school events, taking them to their friend's birthday parties etc. But, are we really connected with our kids; we need to step back and think again, are we really really connected emotionally with our kids. We are not sure about it, especially, can we say despite all these efforts, our teenager share most of the secrets with us.Nope.  So we need to slow down a little bit and change our way of living, not drastically , but a little bit. let us see what need to be change and how much.

Say good morning and good night preferably with a hug : Research has shown , the families where men say Good bye to their wives with a hug, live longer and are happier. This is true with the kids as well. Though , it sounds obvious, but many parents just take it too lightly. Make it a practice to say Good morning the very first thing , say Bye while leaving and Good night before you retire for the day, preferably with a hug. It will make a huge impact .

Conflict in a relationship : Good or bad

Yesterday when I got into an argument with my husband, he left for the office without resolving or discussing the issue. Neither he gave me a call nor I tried to speak to him. This situation forced me to dwell upon the root cause. What was it,  could not remember exactly, all I remember was that I had a conflict with my husband. Are these conflicts good or bad for a relationship. Does a conflict weaken or strengthen a relationship?....

Conflicts are unavoidable in a Relationship

                     What I have learnt after so many years is, conflict is part of every relationship but not necessarily always bad . Many times, a conflict can be productive and increases closeness between the two. Most of us try to neglect a conflict assuming that over a period of time things will be sorted out but without handling the issues properly , it may increase the bitterness and can lead to disastrous results. Sometime, one partner is always willing to bend down to keep the other happy, that will eventually leave a negative impact.The best way to deal a conflict is to talk about it instead of running away from it. Most of the conflicts happens because both the partners think that they are on the right side and can't reach to a common conclusion but if look around properly there is a third option .A conflict should be taken as a brainstorming session and  resolved together.If one partner disregard or disrespect other partner's decision always, then it damages the relationship greatly. On the other hand, if both listen to each other in a positive environment, that leaves a healthy impact on the relationship. It doesn't matter, how many conflicts you have everyday or every week, the key is how do you resolve them and how effectively.

                       In the case you do not like a particular behavior or habit of your partner, instead of attacking on the personality , try to address  that behavior in a cordial manner.By trying to listening to each other's concerns and be responsive, would lead to a healthy impact. Also, try not to drag the issue when you are agitated, remove yourself from the situation and talk about it after a while when you feel calm and composed.Usually, the common mistakes are not to discuss properly, realizing too late that there are other alternatives and the most important believing that the other person must loose for you to win rather that collectively winning.

Few Things need to be address in this situation:

• Work on your Listening skills.
• Try to resolve the issue collectively.
• Work on specific behavior
• Keep yourself calm and composed
• create boundaries
• Remove yourself from the scene in case of agitation
• Apologize
• Seek counseling

 If both the partners try to resolve the conflicts collectively with a positive attitude , it will definitely help to have a good and healthy relationship.

Communication and Trust are two main ingredients of a successful Relationship.