To be connected with your growing child is the need of the hour and has become a necessity more than ever in today's world. We stay under one roof, following a routine life and completing our day-to-day tasks effectively more or less. Sending the kids to the school, attending their school events, taking them to their friend's birthday parties etc. But, are we really connected with our kids; we need to step back and think again, are we really really connected emotionally with our kids. We are not sure about it, especially, can we say despite all these efforts, our teenager share most of the secrets with us.Nope. So we need to slow down a little bit and change our way of living, not drastically , but a little bit. let us see what need to be change and how much.
Say good morning and good night preferably with a hug : Research has shown , the families where men say Good bye to their wives with a hug, live longer and are happier. This is true with the kids as well. Though , it sounds obvious, but many parents just take it too lightly. Make it a practice to say Good morning the very first thing , say Bye while leaving and Good night before you retire for the day, preferably with a hug. It will make a huge impact .
Dinnertime: Make sure to have at least one meal as a family time, if not possible to have more. Most of the time, it should be the dinner time as no one is in hurry and the whole day could be discuss with each other. It is very important to cut off the mobile and TV time while having the dinner. The kids should feel that parents are giving attention to their talks. No matter what, whether you have to attend your call or have to catch up with a buddy, keep aside those 30 minutes of your evening with your kids. While chatting on the dinner table, kids feel relaxed and can discuss their whole day with ease.
Activity Time: Try to include some activity time at least weekly, if daily is not possible. it could be anything going to fishing, playing soccer, cooking a nice meal together. While doing an activity as a family, the kids feel proud in the accomplishment plus it is a learning for them.
Be available when they want to talk: If you have a teenager at home, you will understand what does it mean. It is very important to surrender yourself to your teenager, if he/she demands some special time. It is vital to keep at least 5 minutes out of your schedule to discuss the things in private . Sometimes, they want to discuss few things but do not know how to approach you, since you are busy with other things, they start demanding your attention in a different way. So, give your undivided time to you teenager and assure him/her that you are always there in good or bad.
Vacation time: It is very important as a family to spend some time together on a vacation and do recreation. The kids love doing sports activities offered at the hotels and resorts, so they will look forward for these vacation. Try to utilize this period maximum and make the bond with the kids stronger.
Household chores: It could be a good idea to involve the kids in the household chores like cleaning the house, gardening or cooking. Kids love to set the table especially if a guest is coming over.It benefits two ways; you will be able to finish the work before time and could spend time with your kids.
Brainstorming of a problem: It may be a good idea to involve your kids occasionally to find a solution of a problem. Sometimes, they just surprise us with their problem-solving skills. Especially, if they are also involved directly in the outcome, it is better to take their opinion. Like if you are planning to go outside for a family meal, ask your kid about the Restaurant. They feel nice and confident as well. Sitting together over a problem, may send a signal to your kid that problem can be solved in a jiffy, if discuss together. Very much possible that in future, your grown-up kid would come to you to discuss his/her problem and find a solution.
Care for Each-other : We need to take care of each other and it is very important to display it. When a man shows caring attitude towards his parents, wife and kids, more likely his kids would follow him. No matter what, in every situation, it is important to take care of each other. Inculcating this habit from early childhood will pay off later.
Very well said by someone:
Say good morning and good night preferably with a hug : Research has shown , the families where men say Good bye to their wives with a hug, live longer and are happier. This is true with the kids as well. Though , it sounds obvious, but many parents just take it too lightly. Make it a practice to say Good morning the very first thing , say Bye while leaving and Good night before you retire for the day, preferably with a hug. It will make a huge impact .
Dinnertime: Make sure to have at least one meal as a family time, if not possible to have more. Most of the time, it should be the dinner time as no one is in hurry and the whole day could be discuss with each other. It is very important to cut off the mobile and TV time while having the dinner. The kids should feel that parents are giving attention to their talks. No matter what, whether you have to attend your call or have to catch up with a buddy, keep aside those 30 minutes of your evening with your kids. While chatting on the dinner table, kids feel relaxed and can discuss their whole day with ease.
Activity Time: Try to include some activity time at least weekly, if daily is not possible. it could be anything going to fishing, playing soccer, cooking a nice meal together. While doing an activity as a family, the kids feel proud in the accomplishment plus it is a learning for them.
Be available when they want to talk: If you have a teenager at home, you will understand what does it mean. It is very important to surrender yourself to your teenager, if he/she demands some special time. It is vital to keep at least 5 minutes out of your schedule to discuss the things in private . Sometimes, they want to discuss few things but do not know how to approach you, since you are busy with other things, they start demanding your attention in a different way. So, give your undivided time to you teenager and assure him/her that you are always there in good or bad.
Vacation time: It is very important as a family to spend some time together on a vacation and do recreation. The kids love doing sports activities offered at the hotels and resorts, so they will look forward for these vacation. Try to utilize this period maximum and make the bond with the kids stronger.
Household chores: It could be a good idea to involve the kids in the household chores like cleaning the house, gardening or cooking. Kids love to set the table especially if a guest is coming over.It benefits two ways; you will be able to finish the work before time and could spend time with your kids.
Brainstorming of a problem: It may be a good idea to involve your kids occasionally to find a solution of a problem. Sometimes, they just surprise us with their problem-solving skills. Especially, if they are also involved directly in the outcome, it is better to take their opinion. Like if you are planning to go outside for a family meal, ask your kid about the Restaurant. They feel nice and confident as well. Sitting together over a problem, may send a signal to your kid that problem can be solved in a jiffy, if discuss together. Very much possible that in future, your grown-up kid would come to you to discuss his/her problem and find a solution.
Care for Each-other : We need to take care of each other and it is very important to display it. When a man shows caring attitude towards his parents, wife and kids, more likely his kids would follow him. No matter what, in every situation, it is important to take care of each other. Inculcating this habit from early childhood will pay off later.
Very well said by someone:
The best inheritance a parent can give to his children is a few minutes of their time each day.
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